22 Weeks

This week has seen the return of some unpleasant symptoms from my first trimester: bouts of low-level nausea, constant horrible taste in my mouth, and overwhelming drowsiness. I’m hungry most of the time, but every time I eat I’m left with this horrific aftertaste as though I haven’t brushed my teeth in months. Also: insanely itchy, dry skin, and eczema in places. Having more trouble carrying Miles for more than 10 seconds at a time. And I’m a weeee bit cranky and moody.

I feel positively enormous right now, even though I know I’m not and I’m going to get bigger. When I look at photos of myself 9 months pregnant with Miles, it scares me. How did I even stand upright with a belly like that? I thought by now my size would have evened out compared to my last pregnancy but I feel like I am still way bigger. I had my first fundal height measurement, where your belly is measured externally from top to bottom and centimeters are supposed to correspond with weeks – but I was 28 cm. Yikes. I always measured 4 weeks ahead with Miles but that is a little crazy, even though I know how inaccurate fundal height can be.

Another strange side effect of pregnancy: totally bizarre dreams. One involved me posing as a man in a repressive misogynistic society and even my best friend didn’t know I was a woman in disguise; I helped plan a coup d’etat with a German expatriate so I could continue to hide my identity. Recently I finally dreamed of this baby – I was in labor and ran up the dirt road where I grew up, to the top of a hill, and into a building where there just happened to be a midwife waiting. I squatted down next to a vending machine and pushed twice and baby was born. He was cute and small and had a lot of reddish hair.

Miles really cracked me up during this photo shoot because he remembered what we usually do and cheesed it up a little this time. It’s too bad most of these came out blurry and a little overexposed… I think the low light and snow outside the sliding door was messing with my camera. They’re still cute shots though, so I kept some of the blurry ones.

Miles went with me to an OB appointment for the first time (of course this would be the one where we got stuck waiting for almost two hours to see the doc). He was very patient but not in the least bit interested in what the doctor was doing with Mommy. He still doesn’t pay any attention to my belly and was completely bored by me putting a teddy bear in a swaddling blanket and calling it a baby.

Like the crazy person that I am, I have dragged out all the old newborn clothes and piled them up in the bookcase in Miles’s room… make that the boys’ room. Having two boys certainly simplifies things as far as clothing, organizing, and decor go. I have moved a lot of M’s toys down to our family room to make it more of a playroom, and the kids’ bedroom now is mostly for clothes and diaper changing. I basically have nothing else to do in preparation for baby but my nesting instincts are kicking so I guess I’ll just have to… clean. Ugh.

We have also gotten a bunch of new diapers lately. A generous friend gave me a supply of newborn/small prefolds and covers, and from someone else I bought 8 used medium or one-sized pocket diapers, 6 of which fit Miles right now (the other 2 are too small). This is a HUGE help to us – now we have a good basic supply and can add as needed. Yay!

My next appointment is not for another 5 weeks, when I get to take the gestational diabetes test and will be entering my third trimester. April seems so crazy far away right now with the whole winter ahead of us, but I’m sure the time will fly by on some level. I suppose we need the time to decide on a name for sure, although I will admit we might have one. But I’m not telling just yet! It’s a bit offbeat and we’re thinking maybe we don’t want to hear any critiques until there’s a cute baby face behind it. Plus I would like to have the option of changing my mind when I finally see him.

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EisforErin: Radvent Day 1

Radvent Day 1 – Challenging: Gifts in Self-Doubt

I follow a local blogger and creative businesswoman called Princess Lasertron – last year she started a new tradition on her blog called Radvent, in which she gives readers a new writing prompt each day in the busy month of December. Whether you choose to blog or privately journal on each topic is up to you, but it’s an opportunity to slow down and be thoughtful during the hectic holiday season. I skipped it last year but this year I think it sounds wonderful – perhaps because I am busier than ever, it’s a chance for me to reflect and also a useful writing prompt if I am too overwhelmed to think of my own. Of course, sometimes I will have my own things I want to write about, so the bonus for YOU is that sometimes I will be posting twice a day. I am going to schedule one post in the morning and one in the afternoon when I have two ready to go.

This year’s Radvent starts today with the prompt Challenging: Gifts in Self-Doubt. Lasertron asks, What is challenging you the most right now? And how can you be grateful for it? Reflect on one thing in the past year that you kicked butt at. What would you have told yourself?

Oh, how timely this post is for me today. Just last night I was getting all hormonal and weepy and FULL of self-doubt about my career path. I’m sure a lot of people have this moment when they feel like, I thought I’d be further along by now. It’s unfair to compare yourself to the expectations you had when you were young, because young’uns think that adults have superpowers and OOPS turns out we don’t… but doesn’t everyone do that when they hit a certain age? Think back to when you were 10 or 15 or 20 and say to yourself, I would have thought I’d have done MORE than this by the time I was ____. At age 33 it seems like I am just starting out. My career and my family are brand new. When I’m feeling on top of things, this makes me feel like I’m young and have the world at my fingertips. When I’m feeling low, this makes me feel like I am way behind and overwhelmed with playing catch-up.

What is challenging me most right now is the feeling of starting over, career-wise, in my 30s with a young child and a baby on the way. Having been self-employed for most of my adult life I have always battled with defining my self-worth by my financial success – or lack thereof – and that’s a particularly keen internal conflict at the moment, as Christmas and obstetrical bills loom. I’m not afraid of a little hard work, but I’m afraid of not making it in the end. The sheer logistics of my new career path (which for me includes both drawing and writing) are daunting: I have a toddler at home and will have a newborn in the spring; my husband travels often for work; my work is important to me and highly time-sensitive; I don’t get days off because there is something to do every day.

How can I be grateful for this challenge? It’s my opportunity to do something (somethings, really) that I actually love to do, finally. It’s my chance to define my self-worth not by my income but by my accomplishments – accomplishments that mean something to me. It’s my gift to be able to work from home and be with my children and still have work that nourishes the creative parts of me. That’s WHY I am taking on such a seemingly Herculean task – because if I can pull this off, it will all be SO worth it. I’m not kidding myself that I can have it all – I’m quite sure that I cannot have 8 straight hours of sleep at least for the next several years, for example – but I can have some things that I really really want (including plenty of coffee once I finally pop this kid out).

The thing that I kicked butt at in the past year is simply making the decision to do this. It took courage, and I’ve found that courage doesn’t take place in a single moment of glory, but is a process and requires frequent renewal (pep talks from my husband help a lot). The determination to keep at it is something that I have to work at as much as I work at my actual work. I know I have that inner wellspring of ambition, though it falters at times. I just have to keep coming back to the well every day, no matter how tired I get (chocolate helps with that).

Thanks to Lasertron for this great project, and if you decide to join in, please let me know so I can link up your posts to my Radvent pages!

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